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Aging Gracefully

July 26, 2021

What’s in your closet?

You can learn a lot about a woman by her closet. Some are, tidy, and arranged by

color while others are in disarray with heaps of clothes that didn’t quite make it

onto a hangar. I think that the way we feel about our aging bodies has an impact on

how we view the smallest room in the house. It might be small and hidden but the

emotions stored there are immense. Opening your closet once was an exciting, self esteem-

building a wonderful way to start your day. Now approaching the same door

in your comfy oversized robe is out of necessity and not necessarily a joyful one.

Limited options

Facing our selection of clothes is a stark reminder of our age and the limited options

that it brings. Long gone are the sleeveless frocks, skinny jeans, short skirts, and

high heels. We stopped wearing anything sleeveless due to the combination of

underarm wobble and skin as dry as the Sahara. We can’t get the low-waist skinny

jeans over the belly that has replaced our boobs. And the thought of exposing our

road-mapped bare legs to the world is out of the question. Whatever happened to

pantyhose? What a fabulous invention… cellulite remover, instant tan, and firmness

sheath all in one.

Keeping the dream alive

Women of all ages have weight problems and poor body image. Some women

fluctuate in weight so much that they have three different sizes at their disposal. A

great motivator/guilt enhancer is to have the smallest-sized group up front and

center. Seeing your tiny-sized wardrobe from 1997 first thing can keep the dream

alive that you will lose weight and fit in them again. Although it’s been twenty-four

years, you WILL squeeze back into your ideal size and wardrobe.

Sexy shoes no more

Another sign of our age is the once sexy shoe collection has been replaced by a

lovely assortment of orthopedic shoes and “going out to lunch” flats. You know

you’re in trouble when your arches hurt in a pair of one-inch block heals. We tell

ourselves it’s okay since we no longer wear dresses and shorts so who needs legelongating

shoes. Even younger women are wearing flats; the only difference is their

ankles are still cute. We don’t ask for much, just shoes that are ankle minimizing,

bunion covering and have steel support arches that can still pass for fashionable.

Thank goodness for accessories

Let’s not forget the accessories. Have you noticed that older women take to wearing

huge, bold jewelry? Regardless of the reason, the emphasis of the outfit has become

the accessories. I think there are a couple of reasons for this; unlike clothes, they are

guaranteed to fit, and hopefully, they will draw attention away from the shapeless

outfit with matching sensible shoes.

New looks that work

As the options of what actually looks good on us, dissipates we are left with some

extreme choices. We can resort to high, elastic waist pants featuring wide legs that

above all hide any lumps or as the British say “wobbly bits”. And there are plenty of

long-sleeved, high-necked tunics from the same “mature woman” department at

your local mall. And for resort and casual wear, a good old-fashioned muumuu or

what they now refer to as a caftan will suffice. I do have images of myself in a

gorgeous, exotic print caftan looking both chic and effortless. The key to this look is

that the fabric is nowhere near my body. Which eliminates the need for body

smoothing, hip reducing, and anti-gravity lifting undergarment restraints.

Out with the old

For many of us, it is time to face the reality of our age and our closet. I have put off

doing this for far too long. It’s time to spend the better part of a weekend cleaning it

out and in the process morning the past. Theoretically purging clothes that no

longer fit or are NOT age-appropriate should be an empowering experience. This is

just another right of passage in an attempt to accept my age. I know I need to toss

out the sleeveless section, donate the skinny jeans and have a ceremonial backyard

burn for the short skirts that once turned heads.

And finally acceptance

I would like to tell you that I feel better but to be honest, this process has been

bittersweet. If I had gotten rid of half of my wardrobe fifteen years ago, I would be

excited at the prospect of going shopping and replacing them. But instead, the

thought of trying on clothes that don’t fit, are yet another size bigger and frankly

make me look old…I think I can live with what I’ve got.

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