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July 26, 2021

Realizations Later In Life

The process of life has a way of changing how we see ourselves. Women, in order to

survive the journey, have to constantly adjust themselves and often in doing so lose

sight of whom they really are. Most of us don’t come to this realization until later in

life usually due to a life alternating circumstance that leaves us bewildered and

battered. It is at this time that an onslaught of doubt in both the universe and

ourselves set in. Coming to terms that we are actually in control of very little

including other people and what happens to us is a bitter pill to swallow. We

suddenly feel venerable to life’s cruel twists of fate and realize that no one gets

through unscathed.

When Avoidance Isn’t Working Anymore

When all hope is lost there is only one option left and that is to finally peek inside of

ourselves to get the answers that elude us everywhere else. For some of us, this is

simply terrifying. What will we discover about ourselves? We work hard for years to

avoid this through denial, self-sabotage, drinking, shopping, and many other forms

of escapism. The numbing effects of these are not working like they used to.

Questions and emotions are bubbling up through the cracks, therefore, shaking the

the steady ground we thought we stood on.

The Universe Steps In

Some women do this to keep their family intact, some to outrun their feeling of

emptiness, others to bury the past, and many due to fear of change. Why or how we

do this is not important because eventually, we all run out of rope. The universe will

give us at first subtle signs that it is time to stop, listen and go within. Most of us

ignore these signs because we have made an art form out of what we call self-protection.

So that leaves the universe with no other choice but to circle back and

give us a stronger nudge. Nudges come in the form of loss, disappointment,

heartbreak, and other unpleasant, soul-rattling experiences.

Time to Push Negative Thoughts Out

By quieting the mind and going inside ourselves we can push out the negative self-talk

in tiny bursts. It might only last two seconds and come back but we have won!

You pushed it away and in its place you made room for positivity, self-love, and

forgiveness. You will gradually see that the negative self-talk during the day is less

frequent and at least you are aware that it’s happening. Now, you are able to push it

away or stop and replace it with a positive thought. The good thoughts will

outweigh and crush the negative ones.

Facing the Dark Parts

When you start to get better at going within you can start to feel your body while

meditating. You might be drawn to your lower back for example and may even have

lower back issues. Just concentrate or put yourself in that part of your body and see

what happens. Just stay with it, you do not have to relive anything or force yourself

to remember something. Just stay there and if feelings come up just acknowledge

them and they will float away. We all have light and dark within ourselves. Of

course, we want to focus on the light side but real change comes from exploring and

accepting the dark side of ourselves, too. This can be difficult but it is the core of

doing inner work.

Finally Discovering Your Inner Beauty

I believe that as women, part of our rite of passage later in life is to discover our

inner beauty. Perhaps partly due to our outer beauty fading away, we turn inward

instead. Whatever the reason, the journey of going inward is always a loving gift to

give yourself. Women like us who have lived loved and lost gain wisdom, peace, and

self-love. You can’t have one without the other. It’s the light versus dark concept

again. But by going within we can transmute the dark and make much more room

for the light. Don’t we want to live the rest of our lives in peace, acceptance, and

love? They all are residing inside of us and you have the power to find it.

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